1. Set up the main constituent on the Bio 1 tab and add the spouse on the Spouse button. Be sure to fill in the Gender/Sex and Title fields.
2. On the Addressee/Salutations tab, add additional addr/sals for each mailing situation needed (examples - Primary Female, Primary Male, Formal Female, Formal Male etc).
3. When ready to do a mailing, separate each mailing into two queries: Query 1 filtering on Biographical Gender = Female and Query 2 filtering on Biographical Gender = Male
4. In Mail, select Query 1 and on the Addr/Sal tab, select the desired Addr/Sals for all Bio 1 tab Females and process your mailing.
5. In Mail, select Query 2 and on the Addr/Sal tab, select the desired Addr/Sals for all Bio 1 tab Males and process your mailing.